..been a while again n today is already a day after Xmas..n bout 4 to 5 more days to a new year and frankly 2010 is the worse year i had to go true and at the same time the best year i ever had to go through...ironic when both good and bad came at the same time but that's what life is all about folks...you can get all that you wanted and you can't avoid any bad things that has been destined for you...
life will still go on no matter how good or bad it is or was but have you ever asked yourself which direction do you really wanna go or which destination should you arrive when the current moments doesn't promise or gives you any clue on whats going to happen to your life?....
i have spoken bout many thing,politics, life,relationships, love,hatred and many more tll i don't really remember what i said before but still at the very end of this year the issues or the topics that kept repeating in my mind is still about relationships...
i am gonna be ...hmmm 40 next year but still as of today i cant really comprehend what relationship is all about cause every relationship that i got myself into keeps becoming something that i can predict...love at first sight,being involve,being used and taken for granted and will most definitely end up being hurt again..so i presume but is there still any kind of relationship in this world which is worth dying or fighting for?
have you ever thought of the kind of relationship that you are into at the current moment?like have you ever asked yourself will this be for the rest of your life or will this be just another phase where you will be hurt again n will have to start all over again with another one?..honestly i don't know any answer to that question..honestly i don't know!!
most of us will do anything to be in a relationship or to maintain and make that relationship works and most of the time we will do whatever it takes to please the one you love..no matter what AND i realized THIS is where the problem is!!..Trying to please others till you forget or ignored the needs of your own..the things that you want..just for the sake of pleasing the one that you though you love or the one that you thought loves you for who you are....
sometimes all that we need is just a bit of understanding from the one you loved..understanding on what your needs are..what you really want...BUT most of the time..you are there for the convenience of the one you loved and not for your sake..always like that if i m not mistaken...
when you realized that you are the only one that tries to make it work that is the time when you are supposed to actually consider either to move on or to just stay and be NOT yourself and be accepted as a convenience to someone...
LOVE is a very exclusive or could be a very elusive thing...to me the definition of being in LOVE is when you give all that you have or your life to the extend but why do most of the time only 1 party giveth its all but the one on the other side doesn't give it back to you as what you are giving..i understand that when you love someone its not supposed to aspect the same treatment that you are giving cause i understand that all of us..each individual are different in their own way but the least i guess anyone could show is some appreciation...
most of the time i see a relationship that is doomed to fail is when either parties care for others more than they should, dress up when they are in the companies of others, are more concern for the ones that are not with them BUT ignored ,took for granted and assume that the ones that is right besides them every night will always be there for them....it doesn't work that way..all those above should occur but sooner or later those things will come back to haunt the relationship and like i said..either party will get hurt if not both!!..
humans always forgets this and the only time they will regret or remember or try to look back is when the one that truly loves them is not there anymore..but this happens million of times all over the world and it keeps happening everyday...
..they kept looking for options everywhere else that they thought cud give them what they want but they fail to realized or to work on the current relationship that they are in..for the reason only they themselves know..or perhaps they knew but just plain ignored....
i write cause i m quite sick of all these happening everywhere...if you love someone..act accordingly..be truthful n don't ever take things for granted cause you may think that you may get away with this today but one day you will just end up being recycled from one person to another....
if you love that someone...say that you love her..or show how much you care for her..just by calling her 'sayang' everyday doesn't justify the things that you do for each other especially when you call the one you love 'sayang' but in your heart you are still hoping for the past to be here with you...
be fair to yourself peeps..n be fair to others as well....all that we do or our action will definitely generates an equal reaction...
so, love truly..with sincerity,honesty and not to be in a relationship just cause you are afraid to be alone...its not worth it.....:)
well..here i am again talking bout things that doesn't make any point but well..like they said..its my blog..so be it!..
last but not least...happy new year to all of you and may your relationship that you are in now or in the future be the ones that is heaven made and not out of necessities due to your own lust and greed...cheerios...:)
love
lordmusan
keepin' my sanity alive...
